¹ Unless otherwise indicated, Bible quotations in this essay are taken from The Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV® Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.®. Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide. Quotations marked NRSV are taken from the New Revised Standard Version Bible: Anglicized Edition, copyright 1989, 1995, Division of Christian Education of the National Council of the Churches of Christ in the United States of America. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

² Edward, Gibbon, History of the Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire, Book III, chs 62–4 Google Scholar, ed. Bury, J. B. (London, 1902)Google Scholar.

³ Kate, Cooper, ‘Gender and the Fall of Rome’, in Philip, Rousseau, ed., A Companion to Late Antiquity (Oxford, 2009), 187–200 Google Scholar.

⁴ For references, see Kate, Cooper, ‘Christianity, Private Power, and the Law from Decius to Constantine:The Minimalist View’, JECS 19 (2011), 327–43, at 328–32 Google Scholar.

⁵ Justinian, , Novel 22 (536), discussed in Philip, Lyndon Reynolds, Marriage in the Western Church: The Christianization of Marriage during the Patristic and Early Medieval Periods (Leiden, 1994), 63 Google Scholar; and John, Noonan, ‘Marital Affection’, Studia Gratiana 12 (1967), 479–509 Google Scholar.

⁶ Kate, Cooper, ‘Closely Watched Households: Visibility, Exposure, and Private Power in the Roman domus ’, P&P, no. 197 (2007), 3–33.Google Scholar

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⁸ Kate, Cooper, ‘Insinuations of Womanly Influence: An Aspect of the Christianization of the Roman Aristocracy’, JRS 82 (1992), 150–64 Google Scholar.

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¹⁰ Gregory, C.A., Savage Money: The Anthropology and Politics of Commodity Exchange (Amsterdam, 1997), 7–8, 23–6 Google Scholar, on reciprocal recognition, with summary and critique of Louis, Dumont, Homo Hierarchies: The Caste System and its Implications, transl. Mark Sainsbury (Chicago, IL, 1970)Google Scholar, on household polity.

¹¹ On sexual ethics and Paul, see the illuminating discussion in Gaca, The Making of Fornication.

¹² Michael, L. Satlow, ‘Marriage and Divorce’, in Catherine, Hezser, ed., The Oxford Handbook of Jewish Daily Life in Roman Palestine (Oxford, 2010), 344–61, at 344 Google Scholar.

¹³ Roger, Bagnall, ‘Church, State, and Divorce in Late Roman Egypt’, in Florilegium Columbianum: Essays in Honor of Paul Oskar Krisleller, ed. Somerville, R. E. and K.-L., Selig (New York, 1987), 41–61 Google Scholar.

¹⁴ On the ‘household tables’, see Ulrike, Wagner, Die Ordnung des ‘Hanses Gottes’, WUNT 2 Reihe 65 (Tübingen, 1994)Google Scholar. On marriage and fatherhood in the Pauline literature, see Yarborough, Larry. O., Not like the Gentiles: Marriage Rules in the Letters of Paul (Atlanta, GA, 1985);Google Scholar Gerd, Theissen, The Social Setting of Pauline Christianity (Philadelphia, PA, 1982)Google Scholar. On attitudes to the family, see Carolyn, Osiek, ‘The Family in Early Christianity: “Family Values” Revisited’, Catholic Biblical Quarterly 58 (1996), 1–24 Google Scholar. Margaret, Y. MacDonald’s Early Christian Women and Pagan Opinion: The Power of the Hysterical Woman (Cambridge, 1996) and The Pauline Churches: A Socio-Historical Study of Institutionalization in the Pauline and Deutero-Pauline Writings (Cambridge, 1988)Google Scholar chart how the attitudes to gender and family became more conservative over time, while MacDonald, Dennis R., The Legend and the Apostle: The Battle for Paul in Story and Canon (Philadelphia, PA, 1983)Google Scholar, offers what is still the liveliest account of the second-century conflict over changing gender roles.

¹⁵ Guerra, Anthony. J., ‘The Conversion of Marcus Aurelius and Justin Martyr: The Purpose, Genre, and Content of the First Apology’, The Second Century 9 (1992), 171–87.Google Scholar

¹⁶ The story is told in Justin, Martyr, Second Apology 2.1–20 Google Scholar. Useful discussions of the passage can be found in MacDonald, , Early Christian Women and Pagan Opinion, 205–13 Google Scholar; P. Lorraine, Buck, ‘The Pagan Husband in Justin, 2 Apology 2: 1-20’, JThS 53 (2002), 541–6 Google Scholar.

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¹⁸ Acts of Paul and Thecla, in Edgar, Hennecke and Wilhelm, Schneemelcher, eds, New Testament Apocrypha, 2: Writings Related to the Apostles; Apocalypses and Related Subjects, transl. Wilson, R. McL., rev. edn (Cambridge, 1993)Google Scholar. My own understanding of this text has changed over the years; compare The Virgin and the Bride: Idealized Womanhood in Late Antiquity (Cambridge, MA, 1996), ch. 3, ‘The Bride that is No Bride’; and now Band of Angels: The Forgotten World of Early Christian Women (London, 2013), ch. 3, ‘The God of Thecla’Google Scholar.

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²⁰ Ibid. 27.

²¹ I have discussed this theme further in ‘The Household as a Venue for Religious Conversion’, in Beryl, Rawson, ed., A Companion to Families in the Greek and Roman Worlds (Oxford, 2010), 183–97;Google Scholar and ‘Ventriloquism and the Miraculous: Conversion, Preaching, and the Martyr Exemplum in Late Antiquity’, in Kate, Cooper and Jeremy, Gregory, eds, Signs, Wonders, Miracles: Representations of Divine Power in the Life of the Church, SCH 41 (Woodbridge, 2005), 22–45 Google Scholar.

²² On the network theory of conversion, see Rodney, Stark, The Rise of Christianity: A Sociologist Reconsiders History (Princeton, NJ, 1996), 5–11.Google Scholar

²³ Passion of the Holy Perpetua and Felicitas 5, in Herbert, Musurillo, ed. and transl., Acts of the Christian Martyrs, OECT (Oxford, 1972).Google Scholar

²⁴ This reading of Perpetua is discussed at greater length in Kate, Cooper, ‘A Father, a Daughter, and a Procurator: Authority and Resistance in the Prison Memoir of Perpetua of Carthage’, CH 23 (2011), 686–703.Google Scholar

²⁵ Acts of Thomas, in Hennecke, and Schneemelcher, , eds, New Testament Apocrypha, 2.Google Scholar

²⁶ I say ‘seems’ because the dating of many of the texts in question is uncertain, and the versions to come down to us often include earlier and later story elements; the miracle at the grave of Thomas, for example, probably developed in a later version of the story.

²⁷ On conversion in the Recognitions, see Kate, Cooper, ‘Matthidia’s Wish: Division, Reunion, and the Early Christian Family in the pseudo-Clementine, Recognitions’ Google Scholar, in Brooke, George. J. and Jean-Daniel, Kaestli, eds, Narrativity in Biblical Studies (Leuven, 2000), 243–64;Google Scholar on the date and context of the narrative, Edwards, Mark, ‘The Clementina: A Christian Response to the Pagan Novel’, Classical Quarterly 42 (1992), 459–71 CrossRefGoogle Scholar, offers an insightful discussion, with valuable starting points for further inquiry.

²⁸ Passio Sebastiani 27 (PL 17, cols 1113-50, at 1124), translations here and below are my own unless otherwise acknowledged.

²⁹ Cooper, , ‘Family, Dynasty, and Conversion’, 279.Google Scholar

³⁰ On consensus, see Susan, Treggiari, Roman Marriage: Iusti Coniuges From the Time of Cicero to the Time of Ulpian (Oxford, 1991), ch. 2, ‘Capacity and Intent’, esp. 54–7.Google Scholar

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³² Augustine, The Good of Marriage (De bono coniugali) 9.7.12. On De bono coniugali, see Markus, R. A., The End of Ancient Christianity (Cambridge, 1990)Google Scholar, ch. 4, ‘A Defence of Christian Mediocrity’.

³³ Augustine, The Literal Meaning of Genesis (De Genesi ad litteram) 9.7.12 (CSEL 28, 276).

³⁴ Fulgentius, Ad Optatum 14 (SC 487, 92-4); ET Eno, Robert B., Fulgentius: Selected Works, Fathers of the Church 95 (Washington, DC, 1997), 286.Google Scholar

³⁵ Fulgentius, Ad Optatum, with discussion in Cooper, , Fall of the Roman Household, 173–83.Google Scholar Fulgentius allows that it is possible for the spouses to choose continence together, but not for one to choose it without the approval of the other, since this would violate the apostle’s doctrine of the conjugal debt (1 Cor. 7).

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⁴⁰ Notable recent examples are Peter, Heather, The Fall of the Roman Empire: A New History of Rome and the Barbarians (Harlow, 2005)Google Scholar, who makes a lively case for why the landed gentry might have seen barbarian warlords as attractive sponsors for their property rights; and Bryan, Ward-Perkins, The Fall of Rome and the End of Civilization (Oxford, 2005)Google Scholar, who stresses the long-term detriment to trade and prosperity caused by the resulting fragmentation.

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⁴² Patrick, Wormald, ‘The Decline of the Western Empire and the Survival of its Aristocracy’, JRS 66 (1976), 217–26 Google Scholar, reviewing John, Matthews, Western Aristocracies and Imperial Court.Google Scholar

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