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4 - Managing feelings of love and hate
from Part II - The struggle with kindness
Published online by Cambridge University Press: 01 January 2018
Summary
There is nothing heavier than compassion. Not even one's own pain weighs so heavy as the pain one feels for someone [else] … pain intensified by the imagination and prolonged by a hundred echoes.
(Milan Kundera, The Unbearable Lightness of Being)The pull away from kindness
Why do seemingly caring people behave unkindly? As one author put it, ‘how do good staff become bad?’ (Farquharson, 2004, p. 12). There are many dimensions to even a partial answer to this question. In this chapter, we look at some of the processes at work at the individual level.
First, it seems appropriate to remind or acquaint ourselves with the extreme circumstances that developed in the Mid-Staffordshire NHS Trust, in the English Midlands, between 2005 and 2009, starting with an excerpt from the executive summary of the report of the inquiry (Francis, 2010, p. 10):
Requests for assistance to use a bedpan or to get to and from the toilet were not responded to. Patients were often left on commodes or in the toilet for far too long. They were also left in sheets soaked with urine and faeces for considerable periods of time, which was especially distressing for those whose incontinence was caused by Clostridium difficile. Considerable suffering and embarrassment were caused to patients as a result.
There were accounts suggesting that the attitude of some nursing staff to these problems left much to be desired. Some families felt obliged or were left to take soiled sheets home to wash or to change beds when this should have been undertaken by the hospital and its staff. Some staff were dismissive of the needs of patients and their families.
Although the main focus of the recommendations following the inquiry addressed the systemic failings, the evidence given by patients and their relatives describes in grim detail some glaring indifference and cruelty on the part of individuals. Similar themes are apparent in the recent report of the Patients Association (2010).
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- Intelligent KindnessReforming the Culture of Healthcare, pp. 51 - 67Publisher: Royal College of PsychiatristsPrint publication year: 2011