Book contents
- Frontmatter
- Contents
- Acknowledgements
- To the reader
- Introduction
- Gestures & Signals
- Customs & Behaviours
- No hug for Dr Livingstone: a demonstration of restraint
- It hurts to say goodbye: the Parthian shot
- How stiff can your upper lip get? avoiding strangers
- Chinese whispers: greeting and parting rituals in China
- From Russia with love: sit on your case and say goodbye
- Cut it out! how to avoid saying ‘hello’
- I don't speak to my mother-in-law: avoidance language
- Phonethics: telephone mannerisms
- Thanks for having me on! names and forms of address in the media
- Eskimodesty: greeting and visiting in the Arctic
- Names & Addresses
- Postscript
- Notes
- Sources
- Index
Thanks for having me on! names and forms of address in the media
from Customs & Behaviours
Published online by Cambridge University Press: 04 February 2010
- Frontmatter
- Contents
- Acknowledgements
- To the reader
- Introduction
- Gestures & Signals
- Customs & Behaviours
- No hug for Dr Livingstone: a demonstration of restraint
- It hurts to say goodbye: the Parthian shot
- How stiff can your upper lip get? avoiding strangers
- Chinese whispers: greeting and parting rituals in China
- From Russia with love: sit on your case and say goodbye
- Cut it out! how to avoid saying ‘hello’
- I don't speak to my mother-in-law: avoidance language
- Phonethics: telephone mannerisms
- Thanks for having me on! names and forms of address in the media
- Eskimodesty: greeting and visiting in the Arctic
- Names & Addresses
- Postscript
- Notes
- Sources
- Index
Summary
Television is a different world from the real one as far as saying hi, saying bye and addressing each other.
Take the use of names in ‘soap operas’ or other television serials. It is remarkable how often names and kinship descriptions are used face to face – presumably in order for the audience to always remain up to date with the characters of the drama: who is who, who is related to whom, and how.
Tracy, I can't stand it any longer.
But you have to give it your best, Dad.
Listen, Tracy, I really can't take it anymore.
Dad, Dad, listen to me: it will be over soon, I promise.
To some people, this practice of calling each other by name in a one-on-one dialogue would seem extremely awkward. Scandinavians, for example, find calling someone by name strange at the best of times – especially face to face. Why do you need to repeat each other's names when both of you already know who you are?
A cursory count of one of the most popular and long-running American-produced television serials will show that on average, husbands and wives, brothers and sisters, parents and children, colleagues and workmates, friends and acquaintances and other people who are closely related in some way, call each other by name, face to face, around 30 times in every half-hour episode (which means about 20 minutes' or less running time on commercial television).
Perhaps this is a useful way of ‘learning the characters’ for a newcomer to the show; but does the constant name-calling feel comforting or awkward or even annoying to ardent followers?
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- Tales of Hi and ByeGreeting and Parting Rituals Around the World, pp. 128 - 130Publisher: Cambridge University PressPrint publication year: 2009