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At the bedside: A theological consideration of the role of silence and touch in the accompaniment of the dying

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  05 May 2020

Hina Khalid
Hina Khalid*
Affiliation:
Faculty of Divinity, West Road, Cambridge
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*Corresponding author. E-mail: hk410@cam.ac.uk
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Abstract

This essay situates two embodied practices of palliative care, namely, the act of sitting with another in silence, and the act of gentle touch, within the broader conceptual framework of creatio ex nihilo. Centring on themes of particularity, creatureliness, and relationality, I argue that these practices, understood theologically, can be reframed as active participations in the self-giving love of God – thus setting forth a mode of loving relation with the dying person, rooted in a deep, attentive presence.

Keywords

creationdyingfinitudelovesilencetouch
Type
Research Article
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Scottish Journal of Theology , Volume 73 , Issue 2 , May 2020 , pp. 150 - 159
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Copyright © Cambridge University Press 2020

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42 I follow Muers’ analysis here that listening is ‘an essentially embodied activity, requiring physical presence (the ear) and affected by the physical environment and the presence of others’. Ibid., p. 164.

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