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11 - The role of trust in adolescent–parent relationships: To trust you is to tell you

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  04 August 2010

By
Judith G. Smetana
Edited by
Ken J. Rotenberg
Judith G. Smetana
Affiliation:
(University of Rochester)
Ken J. Rotenberg
Affiliation:
Keele University
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Summary

Trust is a fragile plant, which may not endure inspection of its roots, even when they were, before the inspection, quite healthy

Baier, 1986, p. 260

Trust has been a central construct in psychological theorizing about healthy psychosocial development, particularly from ethological and psychodynamic perspectives. For instance, in Erikson's (1950) developmental theory, developing an appropriate balance of trust versus mistrust in early childhood is one of the normative crises that must be resolved during the lifespan and is central to how later developmental crises, especially the development of identity in adolescence, is resolved. As Bernath and Feshbach (1995) have noted, for Erikson, “basic trust is … sensory, prelogical, and pervasive or fundamental” (p. 2).

Trust is also a core construct in Bowlby's and Ainsworth's attachment theory (Ainsworth, Blehar, Waters, and Wall, 1978; Bowlby, 1969/1982). Sensitive caregiving, including the caretaker's availability and responsiveness to the child's needs, is seen as facilitating the development of secure attachment relationships in infancy, leading to stable internal working models of relationships. Thus, in early childhood, trust in attachment figures' availability, dependability, and responsiveness is an integral element of attachment and relatedness (Bridges, 2003). Attachment relationships are also seen as influencing positive adjustment in childhood and beyond, and as extending to more positive peer and romantic relationships as well. In adolescence, maintaining a “goal-corrected partnership” with parents means that adolescents must maintain trust and warmth in their relationships with parents (Allen and Land, 1999).

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Interpersonal Trust during Childhood and Adolescence , pp. 223 - 246
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Print publication year: 2010

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