Introduction

Family violence is a complex issue relating to the breakdown of an intimate relationship. Former Senior District Judge Richard Magnus (2003) recognizes family violence as:

In the last fourteen years, the amendments to the Singapore Women's Charter have tightened the law to accord not only more protection for victims, but also help for families through the provision of counselling orders. At the same time, there have been efforts to increase public awareness and interagency networking initiatives at the macro level to address this problem.

In situations of family violence, the perpetrators of violence find themselves in a peculiar and contradictory situation. In the aftermath of the violent act, the perpetrators, seeing the outcome of the violence, are forced to confront the truth of their vicious nature. However, they invariably cannot accept it and end up dismissing it. They are unable to make sense of their violence and to place it in terms of a reality they can live with (Eisikovits and Buchbinder 2000).

Contrary to the popular notion that family violence ends in the break-up of marriages, most couples in a violent relationship in Singapore have been found to want to save their marriages. An evaluation study of the Mandatory Counselling Programme commissioned by the Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports (MCYS) in 2004 indicated that seven out of ten survivors of violence stated that their lives had improved and decided to remain in their marriages after undergoing the programmes (MCYS 2007a, b). However there are also instances where the couples may decide the marriage is not worth saving and end up in divorce or separation.