Book contents
- Frontmatter
- Contents
- Preface
- 1 The seductive space
- 2 The paradoxical nature of online relationships
- 3 Emotions on the Net
- 4 Online imagination
- 5 Online privacy and emotional closeness
- 6 Is it worth it?
- 7 Flirting on- and offline
- 8 Cyberlove
- 9 Chatting is sometimes cheating
- 10 The future of romantic relationships
- Notes
- Bibliography
- Index
6 - Is it worth it?
Published online by Cambridge University Press: 22 September 2009
- Frontmatter
- Contents
- Preface
- 1 The seductive space
- 2 The paradoxical nature of online relationships
- 3 Emotions on the Net
- 4 Online imagination
- 5 Online privacy and emotional closeness
- 6 Is it worth it?
- 7 Flirting on- and offline
- 8 Cyberlove
- 9 Chatting is sometimes cheating
- 10 The future of romantic relationships
- Notes
- Bibliography
- Index
Summary
Happy people plan actions, they don't plan results.
Dennis WholeyThe nature of human activities is of great relevance in our quest to understand romantic relationships. This chapter distinguishes major types of activities and indicates their relevance to the characterization of work, leisure, love, sex, and happiness. The implications of these distinctions for online affairs are discussed. It is claimed that, from many aspects, online affairs are valuable, but they are not sufficiently complete to replace offline relationships.
Extrinsically and intrinsically valuable activities
Whatever women do they must do twice as well as men to be thought half as good. Luckily, this is not difficult.
Charlotte WhittondAristotle distinguishes between extrinsically and intrinsically valuable activities. An extrinsically valuable activity is a means to an external goal; its value lies in achieving that goal. This goal-oriented activity is always incomplete: as long as the external goal has not been achieved, the activity is incomplete, and the moment the goal has been achieved, the activity is over. The major criterion for evaluating such activities is efficiency –that is, the ratio of benefits to costs. Time is one of the resources that we try to save when engaging in extrinsically valuable actions. Examples of extrinsically valuable activities are building a house, paying bills, cleaning the house, attending job interviews, and so forth.
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- Love OnlineEmotions on the Internet, pp. 120 - 144Publisher: Cambridge University PressPrint publication year: 2004