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“Sleeping with the enemy”: partisanship and tolerance in online dating

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  02 September 2025

Yara Sleiman
Affiliation:
School of Politics and International Relations, Queen Mary University of London, London, UK
Georgios Melios*
Affiliation:
Department of Psychological and Behavioural Science, London School of Economics and Political Science, London, UK
Paul Dolan
Affiliation:
Department of Psychological and Behavioural Science, London School of Economics and Political Science, London, UK
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Corresponding author: G. Melios; Email: g.melios@lse.ac.uk
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Abstract

Political polarization has transcended political arenas, influencing personal decisions. While such biases are often ascribed to out-group animosity, a person’s “party tag” may act as a proxy for other characteristics, overstating partisanship’s role in private life. To explore this, we focus on online dating, using a conjoint experiment with 3,000 UK participants to isolate the effect of partisanship from other traits. Our findings indicate that the influence of partisanship is on par with conventional criteria like physical appearance, yet tolerance for opposing views plays an even stronger role. We also find imporant partisan asymmetries: both groups favour co-partisans, but Labour supporters are twice as likely to do so. Counter-stereotypic profiles reduce bias among Conservatives but heighten it among Labour supporters.

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Table 1. Summary statistics

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Table 2. Conjoint design: attributes and levels

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Figure 1. The effect of partisanship on dating preferences.

Notes: This plot shows estimates of the effects of the profile attribute values on the probability of being selected for a date. The coefficients represent the AMCEs derived from an OLS model with clustered standard errors. Bars represent 95 percent confidence intervals. Reference categories for all attributes are, respectively, as follows: out-party, intolerant, traditional, Black, no degree, no particular diet, unattractive, and short. Refer to Table C2 of Appendix C for the regression results.
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Figure 2. Attribute correspondence and dating preferences.

Note: This plot shows estimates of the effects of the matched profile attribute values on the probability of being selected for a date, relative to the baseline of “no match.” The coefficients represent the AMCEs derived from an OLS model with clustered standard errors. Bars represent 95 percent confidence intervals. Refer to Table C3 of Appendix C for the attribute matching criteria and to Table C5 for the regression results.
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Figure 3. Gender differences in dating preferences.

Note: This plot shows estimates of the effects of the profile attribute values on the probability of being selected for a date by gender. The coefficients represent the AMCEs, derived from separate OLS models by gender with clustered standard errors. Bars represent 95 percent confidence intervals. Refer to Table C7 of Appendix C for the regression results.
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Figure 4. Gender and party-based differences in preferences for political attributes.

Note: This plot shows estimates of the effects of matched partisanship and political tolerance on the probability of being selected for a date by gender and the respondent’s party identity. The coefficients represent the AMCEs derived from OLS models by gender and partisanship with clustered standard errors. Bars represent 95 percent confidence intervals. The models control for all other conjoint attributes. Refer to Table C9 of Appendix C for the regression results.
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Figure 5. Interaction of political tolerance and partisanship in date selection.

Note: This plot shows the predicted probabilities derived from an OLS regression analyzing the interaction between tolerance and matched partisanship on dating choices. The model controls for all other conjoint attributes. The plot specifically presents the estimated effects of tolerance at the two distinct levels of matched partisanship. Standard errors are clustered at the respondent level.
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Figure 6. Interaction of nonpolitical attributes and partisanship in date selection.

Note: This plot shows the predicted probabilities derived from an OLS regression analyzing the interaction between beauty and matched partisanship (left-hand side) and height and matched partisanship (right-hand side). The models controls for all other conjoint attributes. The plots specifically present the estimated effects of beauty and height at the two distinct levels of matched partisanship. Standard errors are clustered at the respondent level.
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Figure 7. Partisan associations with attribute levels.

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Figure 8. Preferences for counter-stereotypical traits.

Note: This plot shows estimates of the effects of out-partisan profile attribute values on the probability of being selected for a date by Tory and Labor respondents. The coefficients represent the AMCEs, derived from separate OLS models by party with clustered standard errors. Bars represent 95 percent confidence intervals. Refer to Table C10 of Appendix C for the regression results.
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