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- Critical Friendship in the Modern World
- Advances in Personal Relationships
- Critical Friendship in the Modern World
- Copyright page
- Contents
- Contributors
- Acknowledgments
- Introduction
- Part I Critical Intimacies, Differences, and Ruptures
- Part II Critical Sociabilities beyond the Private
- Part III Critical Relational Junctures
- Part IV Afterword
- Index
- References
Part III - Critical Relational Junctures
Published online by Cambridge University Press: 27 February 2026
Book contents
- Critical Friendship in the Modern World
- Advances in Personal Relationships
- Critical Friendship in the Modern World
- Copyright page
- Contents
- Contributors
- Acknowledgments
- Introduction
- Part I Critical Intimacies, Differences, and Ruptures
- Part II Critical Sociabilities beyond the Private
- Part III Critical Relational Junctures
- Part IV Afterword
- Index
- References
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- Critical Friendship in the Modern World , pp. 167 - 202Publisher: Cambridge University PressPrint publication year: 2026
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