Caregivers play a significant role in the process of Voluntary Assisted Dying (VAD), reporting stances of support, opposition, or ambivalence. Though caregiver vulnerability is recognized, little is understood about how caregivers adjust when patients seek VAD. We sought to appreciate how bereaved caregivers of patients in organizations that did not participate in VAD processed and adapted to the challenges faced.

We purposefully recruited caregivers from cases reviewed in a retrospective study exploring how VAD impacted the quality of palliative care. We further expanded sampling to maximize diverse views. We used qualitative interpretative phenomenological analysis to explore unique caregiver perspectives.

Twenty-three caregivers completed interviews. Most were female, Australian-born, retired, identified with no religion, bereaved for 1–3 years, and in a caregiving role for 1–5 years. Caregivers sought accompaniment and non-abandonment across all stages of VAD. Coping was enhanced through framing and reframing thought processes and reconciling values. Caregivers bore responsibility through heightened emotions and experienced isolation and anticipatory grief as they reconciled perceived societal attitudes. Caregivers additionally failed to understand the rationale behind organizational stances and were unable to articulate the moral conflicts that arose. Impartiality from professionals was valued for caregivers to sustain care for the patient.

Despite feelings of vulnerability and isolation, caregivers demonstrated benevolence, courage, and self-compassion, reframing and accommodating their concerns. Professional accompaniment and non-abandonment necessitate solidarity and empowerment, without necessarily enabling VAD. Findings demonstrated the need for individuals and organizations to clearly articulate their willingness to continue to accompany patients, regardless of their position on VAD.