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29 - Human Mate Selection

A Multidimensional Approach

from Part VII - Sexual Selection and Human Sex Differences

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  02 March 2020

By
Daniel Conroy-Beam  and
David M. Buss
Edited by
Lance Workman ,
Will Reader  and
Jerome H. Barkow
Lance Workman
Affiliation:
University of South Wales
Will Reader
Affiliation:
Sheffield Hallam University
Jerome H. Barkow
Affiliation:
Dalhousie University, Nova Scotia
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Summary

Ask a few people to describe their ideal partner and you will get the same response every time: a thoughtful pause followed by a deluge. Our partners must be kind, intelligent, and physically attractive. They should be in good health, good with people, good parents, and good providers. Some of our ideals are very specific: straight hair, freckled, with a gap between their front teeth. Others are more abstract: loyal, creative, passionate, and driven. Many ideals are almost contradictory: spontaneous but reliable; flexible but strong-willed; youthful but responsible. Humans seem picky when it comes to mate choice

And this pickiness makes great sense from an evolutionary perspective. For humans, a mate represents a potential reproductive partner, a parenting partner, a cooperation partner, and more. Throughout human evolutionary history, who an individual selected as their mate would have had profound impacts on their reproductive success.

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The Cambridge Handbook of Evolutionary Perspectives on Human Behavior , pp. 353 - 365
Publisher: Cambridge University Press
Print publication year: 2020

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