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Intimacy Through Casual Sex: Relational Context of Sexual Activity and Affectionate Behaviours

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  17 September 2018

Justin R. Garcia Open the ORCID record for Justin R. Garcia [Opens in a new window] ,
Amanda N. Gesselman ,
Sean G. Massey ,
Susan M. Seibold-Simpson  and
Ann M. Merriwether
Justin R. Garcia*
Affiliation:
The Kinsey Institute, Indiana University, Bloomington, Indiana, USA Department of Gender Studies, Indiana University, Bloomington, Indiana, USA
Amanda N. Gesselman
Affiliation:
The Kinsey Institute, Indiana University, Bloomington, Indiana, USA
Sean G. Massey
Affiliation:
Women, Gender, and Sexuality Studies Program, Binghamton University, Binghamton, New York, USA
Susan M. Seibold-Simpson
Affiliation:
Department of Nursing, SUNY Broome Community College, Binghamton, New York, USA
Ann M. Merriwether
Affiliation:
Department of Psychology, Binghamton University, Binghamton, New York, USA Department of Human Development, Binghamton University, Binghamton, New York, USA
*
Address for correspondence: Justin R. Garcia, The Kinsey Institute, Indiana University, 150 S. Woodlawn Avenue, Lindley Hall 428, Bloomington, IN, 47405, USA. Email: jusrgarc@indiana.edu
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Abstract

Little is known about the role of affectionate behaviours — factors traditionally understood within the context of romantic relationships — in uncommitted ‘casual sex’ encounters. In a sample of U.S. undergraduate emerging adults aged 18–25 years (N = 639) we conducted a preliminary internet-based questionnaire investigation into the role of affectionate behaviours — operationalised here as cuddling, spending the night and cuddling, foreplay, and eye gazing — across two sexual relationship contexts: (committed) traditional romantic relationships and (uncommitted) casual sex encounters. While affectionate behaviours were desired more often in romantic relationships than in casual sexual encounters, many respondents (both men and women) engaged in these affectionate behaviours during casual sexual encounters as well. This was especially pronounced in those who expressed a preference for casual sex encounters over romantic relationships: in a casual sex context these participants were about 1.5 times as likely to cuddle, 1.5 times as likely to spend the night and cuddle, and nearly 5 times as likely to engage in foreplay with a partner. The current study emphasises the importance of considering relationship context in sexuality and relationship research, and the need for further theoretical and empirical research on dimensions of intimacy, including affection, in people's diverse romantic and sexual lives.

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casual sexhookupromantic relationshipcuddlingintimacyaffiliative behaviouraffectionate behaviour

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Journal of Relationships Research , Volume 9 , 2018 , e12
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