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Variability in how people seek significance and fall in love

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  28 May 2026

Margaret S. Clark Open the ORCID record for Margaret S. Clark [Opens in a new window]  and
Mujtaba K. Chughtai
Margaret S. Clark*
Affiliation:
Department of Psychology, Yale University, New Haven, CT, USA margaret.clark@yale.edu muji.chughtai@yale.edu https://clarkrelationshiplab.yale.edu
Mujtaba K. Chughtai*
Affiliation:
Department of Psychology, Yale University, New Haven, CT, USA margaret.clark@yale.edu muji.chughtai@yale.edu https://clarkrelationshiplab.yale.edu
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Abstract

We agree that people seek social significance and that falling in love can be a means to attaining significance. However, we suggest there are differences between people in how they construe and seek significance and how they fall in love.

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Behavioral and Brain Sciences , Volume 49 , 2026 , e6
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